Thoughts on Mom Guilt & Weekend Recap

It probably seems a bit silly that I recently experienced some mom guilt after taking our boys to Disney World, but sometimes it just hits you out of nowhere! Our school put on a dance this past Friday night. I kind of forgot about it going into vacation and figured we would just do our own thing as a family on Valentine’s Day. I was really fine missing it.

Well, Friday night came along and boom, the guilt hit me hard! I should be at the dance with the boys right now. They could be having a blast with all their school friends. This is Andrew’s last year in elementary school, and we completely missed a core memory for him. My heart felt so heavy, and I literally started shedding some tears over it.

While I still think we should have gone, my guilt has lessened a few days later and I thought I would put my feelings into this blog post. Every mom will experience mom guilt at some point. I actually think it means you are a great mom, because you obviously care and love so deeply. We all make mistakes as parents and have regrets. I know looking at the big picture, missing one school dance is not going to break my boys’ childhood but you would have thought that with how I felt!

So, I just want to say no matter the reasons for your mom guilt, your feelings are valid and it’s perfectly normal to have them. What I think is most important is learning how to cope with those doubts and feelings of inadequacy. Give yourself grace. No one does motherhood perfectly. Praying and reading scripture always gives me peace. Confide in a loved one. Make a list of all the things you do really well as a mom, no matter how small, because it’s usually the small things that count the most. I also think that when we model having grace and compassion for ourselves, it shows our children how to treat themselves in those moments of weakness too.

I think more often than not, whatever you feel guilty about is probably affecting you much more than your children, if it is even affecting them at all. My boys never even asked me to go to the dance. Not once. I don’t think they even knew it was happening Friday night. They were happy spending Friday night at home opening their Valentine’s Day gifts, watching a movie, and eating popcorn. I still showed up for them that day. I was still a good mom. I may have messed up not taking them to that dance but I’m doing the best I can. And like I said before, I think guilt is a sign of good parenting.

Hopefully this post was helpful in some way, even if just a reminder you aren’t alone in your feelings of guilt. Motherhood is hard. We’re all on different journeys facing different experiences and circumstances. We all make mistakes. Forgive yourself. Learn from them. Give yourself grace. You’re an awesome mom!

Keep on scrolling to read more about our weekend and thank you for stopping by the blog today!

Weekend Recap

Even while navigating those feelings of guilt, we did enjoy a nice weekend as a family. Our quiet Valentine’s Day evening was just what we needed after traveling the weekend prior and Ryan having a very busy work week.

Our Saturday started off early with basketball in Buckley. Unfortunately, our team lost so we only played one game. I will say they hustled and played their little hearts out, but the shots just weren’t falling. I am very proud how Lucas progressed with this being his first season playing and we’ll see if he wants to give it a go next year!

After basketball we made a stop at Blain’s (Owen’s favorite store he made sure to tell us). He had some birthday money to spend from his aunt and picked out a small crocodile toy. He is my “toy kid” and will sit and play with little figures for hours. Ryan and Lucas were also excited to purchase some type of camera for ice fishing.

Boy, did the snow fall this weekend! The boys spent time outside playing in it and we all worked together to get the driveway cleared. Then we decided to head into Sutton’s Bay for the annual Yeti Fest.

The boys enjoyed the scavenger hunt through town, and we spotted the Yeti (didn’t get a photo opportunity though). Owen also made another dent in his birthday money purchasing a Tylosaurus. I’ve learned a lot of facts about that dinosaur this weekend ha-ha.

We grabbed some lunch at V.I. Grille before heading home. The perch bites were tasty! And that Blue Moon;)

Another cozy night at home was on the agenda with the fire going and snow still falling. The boys wanted to watch Baby’s Day Out which they all laughed out loud during. I love when the 90s movies entertain them!

Sunday included more snow removal, and we didn’t make it to church because of that unfortunately. The boys did some sledding outside and Lucas had a friend come over with his dad. The four of them did attempt ice fishing out on the lake but it was pretty gnarly! His friend brought some hot cocoa to share too.

I made tacos for dinner and the boys went to bed hoping for a snow day today. Their wish came true! Thank you for reading and have a great week!